Breakups serve us our most unglamorous moments: hovering over a pint of ice cream at 2:30 a.m., weeping in front of the television, living in sweatpants. And sometimes, that's the least of it.
"After my breakup I definitely did some stalking," said 22-year-old Marie Burtz of Clemson, S.C. "I knew what time he would go get breakfast every Thursday. I would go to that place and just wait around, all dressed up, to show him what he was missing.
"One time, I made cookies for his roommate, even though his roommate and I weren’t really great friends," she continued with a laugh. "I just wanted to take the cookies by and, again, show him what he was missing. One time, I parked my car several times during the night so I could watch him walk back and forth to his apartment. Yeah, that’s a little creepy."
Recognizing the plight of gals like Burtz, former "Sex and the City" writer and come-lately dating guru Greg Behrendt, author of the runaway hit "He's Just Not That Into You," co-authored "It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken," with his wife Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt, to guide dumpees (and to a lesser extent, dumpers) through a breakup with the same solid, uncomplicated advice that made "Not Into You" a success.
"Honestly, I think the self-help section of the bookstore should be called, 'Yeah, duh' because some of [the advice] is really obvious," Behrendt told FOXNews.com.
One of the strongest messages from the book, which is currently No. 67 on the Amazon.com bestseller list, is that a breakup can be a chance for a "breakover," or a fresh start. "It was the best thing that ever happened to me," Behrendt said of his worst romantic split.
In order to move forward, “Breakup,” advises a period of “he-tox” — going 60 days without contacting the ex — and recruiting a “breakup buddy,” a sympathetically-inclined sidekick firm enough to talk you out of relapsing into typical post-breakup behavior (the book mostly focuses on female dumpees, but also offers tips for lovelorn guys).
Posted by Lawren at October 12, 2005 08:52 AM
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A few years ago, the cottage industry of choice was relationship books. Now it's break-up books. Ah, progress. LOL
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Kevvy the Unnamed Source at October 12, 2005 09:16 AM